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The Intelligent Wisdom of Soma and Psyche


with Bette J. Freedson

Have you experienced the pleasure of getting so close to your goal that you can almost taste success?

Have you tasted the coppery flavor of fear or characterized an unpleasant experience as distasteful?

Disappointment can be bitter; revenge can be sweet and babies’ feet are delicious. Getting something you want at the expense of something else can be bittersweet, and romance can add spice to your life.

If capturing events and emotions in olfactory and gustatory terms heightens the felt sense of the feelings, why not make the yummiest emotions burst with metaphoric flavor?

Take happiness for example.

You most likely don’t need a formal definition of happiness since it can be argued that you know it when you feel it. But because happiness can occasionally slip by unrecognized, it’s worth knowing what the Dalai Llama says about this state of pleasure.

“I believe that the very purpose of our life is to seek happiness.” His Holiness explains. He also warns that material aspects will not produce happiness if your mental attitude is negative. . . . “If you are mentally unhappy or frustrated, then physical comfort is not of much help.” The Dalai Llama recommends that to facilitate the feeling of happiness, it’s best to develop “an inner discipline that brings calmness of mind.”

If we trust this wisdom, cultivation of a repertoire of sense experiences connected to calmness might serve as the recommended discipline. With such a practice, the comfort of a felt sense of calm could be absorbed into soma and soul to be elicited later as “happiness” when antidotes to stress and negativity are needed. The healing and calming potentials of connecting calmness to happiness were deliciously demonstrated in a recent therapy session with my client Abi.

A thirty-two-year-old mother-to-be, Abi, often comes to therapy in a state of angst. We have been utilizing hypnosis to help Abi access her inner wise mind for coping with stress. On this day, however, despite the fact that she is eight months pregnant and in the middle of a home move, Abi is glowingly happy. She tells me that she is managing, and she is feeling “great.”

“I know there are stressors,” Abi says. “And I want to continue working on them but today I am happy and I just want to keep this good feeling.”

“I’m writing a blog about happiness.” I tell Abi. “And I wonder if you would be willing to see what your happiness tastes like today?”

Smiling, Abi agrees by closing her eyes and going visibly into trance. Continuing induction shifts Abi’s focus from management of her material life to the inner awareness of her felt sense of calm, of feeing happy. At this point I suggest to Abi that she bring to mind a variety of tastes that she enjoys and see what flavor most closely matches her current good feelings.

After a moment Abi’s face lights up.

You can read more of Bette’s Flavors of Happiness here